Okay, so I haven’t rounded up much this month. I’ve been too busy enjoying the sunshine (it’s finally here!), getting to know new neighbors, and – I admit it – watching too many episodes of Flip or Flop. Then there was that tiny little blip when my mom fell and broke her hip while hiking, and it took back-country rescue several hours to rescue her off Camel’s Hump in the dark. Yep, if my mom is going to break her hip she’s going to do it in style. And her response to anyone who asks what she was doing climbing to the summit of a mountain? “Why shouldn’t I?” Exactly, Mom! (Note to self: Be sure to have that same amazing attitude when you are a grandmother.)
And did I mention my cousin crashed his stunt plane on the interstate in April? Yes, my family has been making Vermont news on a monthly basis. (But fear not. Cousin Dan had his handy-dandy parachute and came out of the whole ordeal with nary a bump. Nine lives. Seriously. We are obviously very thankful he is alright.)
Anyhoo…I digress. My point was: Not much time reading on the internet this month. And I’m kinda happy with that. It has felt good to focus my energy on other things.
- The First Moment Your Adopted Son Wonders Out Loud…About His Other Mother by Carlos Whittaker – You all know I love conversations, especially those between parent and child, and this is a beautiful one. I love how Carlos responded to his son’s wondering about his birth mom. “That was it. No magic words. Just an acknowledgment of his wonder and his pain.” Read their conversation here.
- Is That Your Real Daughter? by Janice Eidus – Janice shares an experience of being held at gunpoint by police in Mexico City when a friend’s relationship to her transracially adopted children was questioned. Hearing about situations like this always boggles my mind. Seven years into this mixed-race family gig, I just had my first “your kid is adopted, right?” experience a few weeks ago (er, no….he’s not). I like to hope extreme situations are rare and I don’t want any of us to walk through the world expecting the worst. Still, it is important to be aware that these crazy things – like being told to show your adoption papers while out shopping – do sometimes happen. Read Janice’s story on Purple Clover.
- In April I mentioned that Chocolate Hair/Vanilla Care was gathering photos for its 2014 “Mama & Me” Share the Hair. Now you can view the awesome slideshow of parents and kids rocking matching hairstyles. As CH/VC founder Rory writes on her site, Share the Hair is a celebration of family and relationships. Many of the photos reflect not just creative hair, but also capture the love between parent and child. Heart.melting. View them here.
- An Open Letter to American Girl by Lisa Owen of My So Called Glamorous Life- Lisa once again does an amazing job of speaking up when something is out of sorts.This time she has written an eloquent and thoughtful letter to American Girl about the dolls that they have chosen to retire from their Historical Dolls line and the impact those choices have on the diversity (or lack thereof) of the collection. Read her letter here.
- We Need A Village To Raise Mixed Race Children by Thien-Kim of I’m Not The Nanny – “I can teach my kids that they are beautiful and their mixed race heritage is to be celebrated, but how long can I fend off media and societal prejudices? My husband and I do our best to raise strong, confident, and loving children before sending them out into the world. But we need everyone to raise their children to celebrate diversity, no matter what your family’s racial make-up or cultural heritage.” Hear, hear! Check out Thien-Kim’s full post.
- Between Worlds put together a list of books for learning about white identity and white privilege. Although I haven’t read any of these myself, the post looks like a valuable resource for anyone who wants to reflect on what white it means to be white. (Not saying I don’t want to reflect. Just…time. I need more of it!) Check out What Does It Mean To Be White? Resources On White Identity Development.
And remember that study by Yates and Marcelo that I mentioned in last month’s round-up, the one that found black preschooler’s imaginative play and emotional expression is associated with more negative ratings from their preschool teachers, compared to kids of other races? Well, I managed to get a copy of the actual study (yay! thanks, Hubby!) and when I finally finish reading it I will share the details with you. Because when it comes to research studies, the details do matter and often can’t be boiled down to sounds bites for the news. Personally, I’m curious to learn more about the nuances of the study and what it might mean for children of color.
Hmmm, maybe I rounded up more than I realized! What great pieces have you read about race and family?