Before I wrap up this series, I thought it would be fun to share my experiences with my boys. I don’t have anything revolutionary to add to the series, but what momma can resist talking about her own little sweeties?
The boys’ hair
Since we keep both boys’ hair short, I haven’t spent too much time figuring out the nuances of their hair types. In general, I’d say Zip’s hair is probably 3b like mine (loose curls), while Bee’s is 4a (tighter coils). This means that what works for one doesn’t necessarily work for the other, when it comes to caring for their hair!
Resources I’ve found most helpful
Definitely Rory’s website Chocolate Hair/Vanilla Care, as others have mentioned! Last winter one of my frustrations was that Bee’s hair always looked frizzy by the time he got home. I wasn’t sure if the result of wearing a winter hat and therefore unavoidable, or what. And his hair was really different from my own, so I wasn’t sure how best to care for it. Rory’s website helped me figure out a new haircare regimen – one that better meets the needs of his hair – and I’ve seen a big difference.
We pretty much follow the steps outlined in Rory’s post “Basic Healthy Hairsteps for Beginners,” and use products that follow those steps. All of these are available at our local Target.
- For washing, we generally use Curl & Shine Shampoo (sulfate-free) or Raw Shea Butter Restorative Conditioner, both from Shea Moisture. With Bee I am much more likely to do a conditioner wash, when necessary, or not wash his hair at all. With Zip I loosely rotate between using shampoo or conditioner to wash his hair. (With my own curly hair, I use a leave-in conditioner or nothing at all, and only use shampoo every few weeks.)
- We use Kinky-Curly Knot-Today as a leave-in conditioner/detangler. I’ve experimented with other options, but this is one we’re really happy with.
- In the morning, we wet Bee’s hair with water and then spritz in some Curls Lavish Curls Moisturizer. I love this stuff! He no longer has frizzy hair at the end of the day, and I am 99% certain this is the reason. For Zip we use a little water and Cantu Shea Butter leave-in conditioning repair cream to style his curls in the morning.
- I have to do a quick mention of Curls Curl Creme Brule, which is a styling cream. I use this on Zip’s hair occasionally, but I use it on my own curls every.single.day and I absolutely love it.
Awkward hair moment
If your kids are older, you’ve probably found that their hair changed quite a bit from infancy to preschool. As a toddler, Zip had sort of fine, loose curls. I’m not sure if it qualifies as awkward, but when he was 2 I was looking through photos after the holidays and realized his hair was more out of control than I realized. It was cute, in a very my-momma-doesn’t-pay-attention-to-my-hair kind of way, but I gave him a hair cut immediately! (When I look at those pictures now, I realize I was probably overreacting and he was just rocking some awesome toddler-hair!)
Favorite “hair memory”
Last year my husband cut Bee’s hair in a mohawk. He looked so adorable, and he kept referring to it as his “monkey-hawk.” The next haircut Hubby shaved it off. Bee looked in the mirror and told us, “I want my monkey-hawk back!” He has been wearing a mohawk ever since and I just love that he loves his hair and has a preference for how he wears it.
When Zip was little I cut his hair myself, but when Bee was a toddler my husband took over because the clippers were needed. I love watching that ritual involved in my husband caring for their hair. The booster gets pulled out and put on a dining room chair so they are seated up high. The boys choose a cartoon to watch so they’ll sit still, and then the haircut follows. I have way more photos than any momma needs of my husband cutting the boys’ hair!
Be sure to check back tomorrow – I’ve got a round-up of everyone’s favorite products and resources, all in one post! In the meantime, you can find the rest of the Biracial Haircare series RIGHT HERE.