I loved sharing great posts and fabulous blogs in the first Multiracial Round-up, so yep, this needs to be a regular thing!
Let’s kick this off with an introduction to another fabulous blog about life in a multiracial family. Have you met Vanessa from De Su Mama? Her blog is just lovely to look at, she has some wonderful series, and she writes often about race and culture. In a recent post about interracial marriage, Vanessa sagely advises:
To survive as an interracial couple, you learn to decipher between who are fundamentally opposed to interracial unions (or straight up racist) and those who are concerned with the unfamiliar challenges that you’ll face. Practice restraint in your judgement, as those people that love you most will always find a way of coming around. Wow – great advice, huh? Read the rest of Vanessa’s post right here.
Alrighty then, on to snippets of some other posts I enjoyed over the past month or so. Just click on the title to visit the site and read the full piece.
Building a New Racial Justice Movement, by Rinku Sen at Colorlines
Even people who don’t dismiss the need for race talk entirely often have the wrong end goal in mind. They encourage respect for diversity, or multiculturalism. Those are both good things. But neither one is the same thing as justice. It is entirely possible to have a diverse community, city or workplace that is marked by inequity.
An Open Letter to the West Liberty Police Department, by Jen Marshall Duncan at Empatheia
I can’t help but wonder if the officer would’ve made the stop if the boys in the backseat had been white instead of black. Please ask yourselves that question–would your officers run the license plates of a vehicle that is driven by a middle-aged white woman with 2 white boys in the backseat, when that vehicle is in good shape and the driver is obeying all traffic laws? Because I can tell you that I have never, ever heard any other white mom of white kids talk about getting pulled over for no logical reason. And because of that, I am deeply offended and hurt.
Q is for Cuban: My 3-year-old’s Biracial Identity, by Vanessa at De Su Mama
This is the problem with pursuing color blindness – children are NOT blind unless they are actually blind. My husband is black, and Alina needed to hear me (her mother) acknowledge that. Celebrate him. Cherish her black family and the legacy we all share with them. And she needed me to call her black, too.
Also check out: Can You Survive An Interracial Marriage
Wise Words from Daughter About Korean Adopted Brother, Guest post by Julie Nelson shared on Bicultural Mama
Having a child that doesn’t look like you can often raise questions. Most adults, however, are sometimes hesitant to ask too many questions so as not to be considered rude or insensitive. Children, on the other hand, do not have this filter in most cases. Here’s an example.
Talking to My Biracial Child About Why People Think She’s Adopted, by Martha at Momsoap
I can always see it coming with the kids. They look at Annika. Then at me. Then back at her. Then back at me. Then the question begins to formulate in their minds. If no parents are nearby, I get questioned. I’ve been asked the same variation from multiple children over the years, but it’s usually something as inelegant as, “Is she your daughter?”
Also check out Martha’s post, One Thing I Can’t Pass On To My Daughter: White Privilege
What have I missed? What great posts or multiracial family blogs should I check out next?