Here are three "tricks" that I've been using a lot lately with Bee, mainly for getting him to cooperate with me and do what he needs to do. These are things he responds really well to, in part because they are playful and engage him, as opposed to demanding he do what I tell him. I thought I'd share my favorite tricks, and I'd love to hear what works well with your preschooler!
Two Choices With One Crappy Option - Instead of using time-out, when Bee initially refuses to do something I offer him two choices, one of which is to do what I asked him to do and the other is something really unappealing. The something unappealing is generally sitting quietly by himself. Like last night when he didn't want to come to dinner because he was playing, I told him: "Play time is over right now. You have two choices. You can come eat dinner with us or you can sit on the couch." Once in a while his choice is, "Nuthin'!!!" which means he really doesn't like his options, but usually it works like a charm.
The Timer - When it is time to finish playing or get out of the bathtub or stop some other fun activity, the timer works great. This evolved from us telling him "Two more minutes" to help him transition when we need him to wrap up. I finally realized there is a timer right on my phone (how long did that take me?!), which means I can use it anywhere. The timer makes "two more minutes" more objective and concrete, and Bee loves telling me which sound he wants to hear when the timer goes off, like the barking dog or the motorcycle. Thank goodness there is no train sound, or I'm sure we'd be hearing that every.single.time!
Okay, now it's your turn! Scroll on down to the comments and share YOUR favorite strategies.